Therapy and dealing with your past and making your mental health a priority is so much harder than pushing it down deep and trying to block it out. It is like having a full-time job where all you do is try to NOT think about it. “It’s in the past, you can’t change it, you can’t fix it.” It’s nonsense…. Read more »
Whenever we block memories and events from our childhood, we tend to assume the block will remain. The thing about the brain is that it can do some weird shit. One day you will remember nothing about a year or two in your life, and the next – sadness, anxiety and open the door to invite all of the other… Read more »
Last week a woman I know said that there are people who have it worse than she does so she had no right to complain. She shouldn’t be upset – she should get over it. That triggered something in me; throughout my life, I’ve heard similar things. “There are millions of people who would love to have your life. What… Read more »
When others seem agitated with you, pause. Is this about you, or is this something else? Maybe it is an emotion that they are expressing about something that has nothing to do with you. Could it be an emotion/event that they are working through, and you happen to be present. If you can not see what you’ve done – don’t… Read more »
Firewalk your past. Navigate the pain and use it to help you heal. You can’t change the past, but you are not doomed to repeat it.
I turned 47 a few days ago. After 18 months of intense therapy and struggle to find my lost self, I am discovering the person that I knew when I was younger. Fearless, determined, and confident. I don’t know where I lost her along the way, but I am glad she is back. In 2004, after a lifetime of physical… Read more »
I hope that by sharing my adventure, I can help myself heal and maybe help others along the way.
I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who… Read more »
“Finding Yourself” is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten-dollar bill in last winter’s coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. “Finding Yourself” is actually returning to yourself. An… Read more »
I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds. Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. I’m… Read more »