I am floored by the outpouring of love for us and for Louis. He was loved by so many people, some he’d never met. Thank you for reaching out and sharing your stories with me. Thank you for the memorial gifts to animal rescues. Thank you so much. It’s not often I’m at a loss for words, but y’all are… Read more »
I can certainly understand the fear of speaking out that comes with traumatic events at the hands of people who seem to have some “control” in your life. We all have happened to us, to our loved ones, and we continue to sit on these secrets. Sometimes, we spend so much energy trying to be safe and quiet, and the… Read more »
Therapy and dealing with your past and making your mental health a priority is so much harder than pushing it down deep and trying to block it out. It is like having a full-time job where all you do is try to NOT think about it. “It’s in the past, you can’t change it, you can’t fix it.” It’s nonsense…. Read more »
Whenever we block memories and events from our childhood, we tend to assume the block will remain. The thing about the brain is that it can do some weird shit. One day you will remember nothing about a year or two in your life, and the next – sadness, anxiety and open the door to invite all of the other… Read more »
Forgive and Forget. Forgive your enemies, for they know not what they do. From Gandhi to Oscar Wilde, forgiveness being healthy is the theme. I call bullshit. If attempting to forgive your attackers brings you shame because you just can not bring yourself to let it go. You are not a terrible person. When you try to forgive when you… Read more »
A little over ten years ago, I had my first experience with Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing ( EMDR ). I couldn’t get past my mother’s death and the trauma that came with being the one who had to tell the doctor that my mother wouldn’t want to be on life support. She had made that clear. Dad and my… Read more »
Firewalk your past. Navigate the pain and use it to help you heal. You can’t change the past, but you are not doomed to repeat it.
Openly allowing grief connected to the trauma and loss will enable me to see the event as if I was looking at a photograph or watching a film. This process had given me the ability to see things as an observer, not a participant.
I turned 47 a few days ago. After 18 months of intense therapy and struggle to find my lost self, I am discovering the person that I knew when I was younger. Fearless, determined, and confident. I don’t know where I lost her along the way, but I am glad she is back. In 2004, after a lifetime of physical… Read more »