I wanted to tell you why I don’t want children so that it may help others who may be on the fence realize that they are not alone and that there is NOTHING wrong with them. I have also found that there is a prejudice against people who don’t want kids.
The next time someone who isn’t sure about what they are feeling and think they are losing their minds comes online and searches the word childfree maybe seeing that there are so many of us out here, they won’t feel alone in the sea of commercials for diapers, Dizzkneeland, and Brats R Us. Also to help stop people from thinking all of that crazy bullshit that people feel when you tell them you don’t want/ like children. Since I can remember I have never wanted children. I’ve never liked kids, even when I was a child I didn’t like to be around them. I didn’t play well with others so to speak. I don’t want the mess that children make; the smells children make, the noise children make, the stress in a relationship they can cause, the financial turmoil they can put you in, the list goes on. It is a personal choice, and I can live with it.
And it isn’t that I hate children. I dislike, as many people – parents and non-parents alike, ill-behaved children. But many of my friends and family have children that I enjoy spending time with, but I enjoy going back to my quiet home much more.
I recently had a Tubal Ligation as a form of birth control. My doctors didn’t hesitate to agree to this after I explained why I wanted it done. If I ever decide to have children I will adopt, after all, my Daddy is not linked to me by DNA why should that kind of thing matter to me if I have kids. Love is love.
Just don’t let people get you down and certainly try not to let their short-comings as a parent or human give you pause with your choices in life. Make yourself happy.