speak up – speak out

loup
6 January 2018

I can certainly understand the fear that comes with traumatic events at the hands of people who seem to have some “control” in your life. We all have things that have happened to us, to our loved ones and we continue to sit on these secrets.

We spend so much energy trying to be safe and quiet, and the trouble with that is it leaves others vulnerable to harm.

We are taught very early one in our young lives that someone that tattles was not worthy of listening to, they exaggerate and over-react.

As an army brat, I can tell you a lot of children and spouses tried to wear their parents rank as if it were there own. In the 3rd grade, a little boy tormented me on the bus. I told my mom after three days. I told Mamma what was going on. Her advice was simple – “the next time that little shit raises his hand you – knock him onto his ass,” – so I did.

We ended up in a meeting with the boy in his father’s office – with the boy and his parents – the base commander, and his mother. My dad was out on maneuvers otherwise he would have been there too. Mamma and I sat patiently listening to the bold accusations and threats. They were going to take my dad’s rank; they were going to ship us back stateside, they were going to file formal charges and have me remanded to a “HOME” for problem children. It went on like this for a while. “What you have to say for yourself?”

My mother was a bit of an enigma to most people. She would go out of her way to help a person in need even if it meant going without herself. However, bring harm to those in her care, and she would become a terrifying force of nature that you did not want to see again.

After the collection of ass-clowns picked their jaws off the floor, we headed out and down the stairs. Mamma stopped me and said “Never be afraid to tell someone when you are hurt, you may not be the only one, and it is up to you to speak out. It gives others strength to hear that it has happened to others like them. There are always going to be people who think they are more significant than others and they abuse their positions. Never just let it go.”

There is so much truth in that 3rd-grade exchange that I never forgot it, and I live by it today still.

I realize it can be scary; you think you may not have a job if you speak out – you may fear violent retributions. But I promise you, the pain you suffer now will only increase as you hear stories just like yours – and you will wonder WHAT IF? for the rest of your list.

Pain is a part of life – it just is. Suffering is optional. Take that hate, that anger, and that fear and do something with it. Create a movement, purge it out of your system with art and words but never stay silent.

Home Sweet Home

loup
7 February 2016

Hi all – just an update to let you know I am HOME. I was released from hospital yesterday. I wanted to thank everyone for the cards, flowers and thoughtful gifts. It was a rough week to be away from my babies and Michael. I had the best room in the hospital. No joke, it was a suite and every staff member that came commented on it. I had a fridge, a view of Dallas skyline, ROOM SERVICE style meals instead of a plate of whatever / whenever. I think I gained 5 lbs. None of that would have mattered if the nurses and staff were not STELLAR.
If you need anything and you are in the Plano Texas area — The Medical Center of Plano should be your go to.

The staff at ER at Burleson also impressed the hell out of me. Was in and out in record time for ER and Dr. Singhal was quick to get me to a hand surgeon. Not only did he get me to a hand surgeon – I feel like he got me the BEST. Dr. Steven Clark was AMAZING. He explained everything, sometimes twice thanks to pain meds. I have regained much of the use of my middle finger. But, those who know me know that if I HAD to lose the ability to bend any finger — the MIDDLE FINGER is the one.

I can’t thank David & Brenda Bott enough for taking such good care of my babies while Michael sat with me in the hospital. You guys are the best!

If you want to see pictures, leave a comment. I will get Michael to post some album or something. I don’t want to see them — Dr. Clark used words like FILET THE FINGER … I don’t need to see that.

Love to you all!! Now I am of going to have a CUPPA and binge on some Scandal!!

Brittany Maynard

loup
10 October 2014

Watching my Daddy suffer from the pain from Cancer at the end of his life haunts me. We were never able to get ahead of the pain and give him a restful sleep or a peaceful death. Your life is your own and you should have the right to let go on your own terms without fear of your loved ones being charged and arrested with assisting your death. You should never have to uproot your family and move to a state that understands that death is a personal choice and being in immeasurable pain when there is no relief but a miserable death is completely uncalled for.

Please send Brittany Maynard a thank you note for taking a stand and making her choice heard so that others who do not comprehend what this kind of choice really means.

Michael and I support Brittany and her family and we send her thoughts of comfort and love.

From this moment …

loup
26 September 2014

We are getting ready to embark on the road trip of a lifetime this morning and I find this tidbit in my email —

 

LOUP, what wouldn’t you give to live, love, and be happy, deliriously happy, forevermore?

Well, that’s just it, you needn’t give anything, LOUP. Just decide to live, love, and be happy, deliriously happy, from this moment forward.

Easy enough. See you on the road.

Notes From The Universe

loup
15 September 2014

I subscribe to TUT.com and get little random notes from “The Universe” in my email. I will start sharing the ones that I like. You can sign up for your own notes for free.

 

 

Sometimes, it’s easy to forget that you always have options.

That your power has remained intact.

And that everything, up until now, has just been practice for the really, really good stuff.

Tallyho,
The Universe